Thursday, August 7, 2025

Spiritual Journey Thursday: Family

 
 
Leigh Anne at A Day in the Life invited us to write about family.
 Check out her post that celebrates four teachers in her family. 
I love these words from Leigh Ann's post: It is the 
"...stories about family that we hold closest to our hearts that we remember. 
Maybe God places them there to help those left behind
feel our loved one's presence after they are gone. 
Maybe those stories are the ones that connect our hearts."
 
 

The July prompt for our memoir writing group came from Susan. “What is the best advice anyone has ever given you?” When I received Leigh Anne's family prompt for SJT, I decided to revisit this unfinished piece of writing since much of it revolves around family and friends (found family).

 

I spent a bit of time musing over this question. I always find it hard to answer questions that begin with “What is the BEST….?” How can I decide? It taps right into my indecisive personality. So I’ll share several bits of advice that popped into my head as I meandered through my memories, in search of the BEST advice. They come mostly from family, but also from friends, those wonderful people who become our chosen family. 

 

My dad’s famous saying, “Can’t never did anything,” popped into my mind immediately. Also, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again.” And this oft repeated saying, “Be careful of the words you say to keep them soft and sweet. You never know from day to day which ones you’ll have to eat”.

 

And then I think of the big three that Sara remembers from her dad and included in her freshman year memoir for Mrs. Sayers’ class:

1.   “Be careful who you marry.”

When we watched movies or TV shows, he would insert this advice at opportune times to remind us that who you marry has long lasting influence on the rest of your life.

2.   “Plan your work and work your plan.”

This advice from Dad, an inveterate planner, encourages us to get started on projects early or reprimands us if we’re running behind.

3.   Dad believes we can do anything because . . .

“You’re a Behnke!”

 

We visited Lance’s Nebraska friends, Chuck and Nancy Larsen, on some of our trips to visit Lance’s family. Nancy was still teaching at the time. She always provided lovely meals for large groups of people. I connected easily with Nancy and not just because we are both teachers. I remember her three pieces of wisdom because I wrote them on a sticky note and tucked them inside my cupboard. They made the move from Houston to Seattle, but I haven’t found them since our move to NC. Here are Nancy’s maxims for living which have guided me through several decades.

            !. I did the best I could at the time.

            2. Life is too short. Tomorrow is another day.

            3. This too shall pass.

 

The advice that my husband, Lance, has given me most frequently comes from a talk given by our friend, Rod Larsen, “Be a willow.” It’s good advice for me since I can be rather rigid at times. Be a willow reminds me to bend and be flexible. 

 

Another invaluable piece of advice came from my husband as my mother was nearing the last few months of her life. He encouraged us to get my Mom’s name on the waiting list for a nursing home. I couldn’t see that this would ever be necessary since I wanted to keep Mom in her home. However, our distance from her, our young family, and her medical needs precluded this from happening. It was thanks to Lance’s advice that we were able to provide the best care possible for her final weeks in a care facility with loving staff .

 

The BEST advice ever given to me came from Lance during this same time when we were living in Houston. We had just returned from a date night (a rare occurrence for us) when we received a call that my mother was in the hospital at St. Francis Hospital in Tulsa and would be facing surgery soon. I flew to Oklahoma for the surgery and ended up staying through Thanksgiving. All four of the siblings were there when Mom went in for surgery. Lance drove Blake and Sara to Kansas by himself for our planned Thanksgiving holiday with his family. Mom’s surgery for an intestinal blockage resulted in a colostomy and a diagnosis of advanced colorectal cancer. Her medical professionals decided to keep her comfortable and to not treat her cancer. Following this devastating prognosis, Lance’s advice was to go home to McAlester, Oklahoma as often as possible. Even though it meant leaving Blake (age 6, in kindergarten) and Sara (age 4, at St. Paul’s preschool) in the care of many capable friends and babysitters while Lance was at work, I’ve never regretted the time I was able to spend with Mom during the next six months. and it was because Lance was supportive and encouraging of my spending as much time as possible in Oklahoma. I also owe a huge debt of gratitude to the many dear friends that made this time away possible. It’s a gift that has lasted through the years providing precious memories of the days Mom and I spent together.  

Friday, July 4, 2025

Spiritual Journey Thursday & Poetry Friday: Still Waters

Karen at Karen's Got a Blog invited us to write to the prompt Still Waters 
this month. Check out her post that transports us for a sensory filled paddle through Minnesota's Boundary Waters Canoe Area. 
 
This prompt made me think of OSU where I attended university and experienced a time of spiritual growth as a young adult. My "OSU" is located in Stillwater, Oklahoma. We had Theta pond in front of our dormitory that was the site of many shenanigans during our college years.
 
When we lived in Washington State, Slater Park on Lake Washington was a favorite pocket park where I loved to pause, be still, and observe the sky and water through the changing seasons. 
 
Our move to North Carolina put us just 1/2 mile from a lake with a pedestrian bridge that crosses the lake, so I walk to the water most days. I love capturing the lake in it's many different moods, mostly in the morning, but I do walk in the afternoons once our summer temps and humidity have calmed down.    
   
Sunrise on July 4, 2024 (captured by my daughter)

A foggy morning!

 
 Karen closed her post with these words from Psalm 23: 
 "He leadeth me beside the still waters."
 
In Hebrew, “still waters” is “Mai Menochot,” 
which literally translates to “restful waters.”  
These words relate to the next verse which states:
"He restoreth my soul."   

I want to share a few lines from "Be Still (a psalm)"by Melody Newey Johnson.
Come to the temple of silence, 
away from sounds of weary want, 
from the grinding, tearing of time.

Come away from shouting daylight, 
find me in the stillness of afternoon, 
your ordinary afternoon.

You can find the entire poem here.
 
May you be blessed and restored by still waters and find support for the storms which inevitably come. 

Wednesday, June 4, 2025

Spiritual Journey Thursday: Summering

"Since retirement, summer no longer has the delicious allure of a respite from the hectic days of teaching. My move to NC has put me in the thick of summer humidity and mosquitoes after 26 Seattle summers. (Can you tell that I'm finding it hard to embrace summer in my new state?) This theme is an invitation to each of you to help me find "summer love". Do you have particular spiritual rhythms for summering? Is there a book out there like Katherine Mays Wintering for summer?"
 
I've spent a lot of time musing about summer ever since I sent out this prompt for June. I borrowed this sentence from a summer book catalog: 
 
"Long summer days call for
 slowing down, 
recharging, and 
reconnecting with what matters most."
  
 This list is my attempt to create a feasible summer rhythm.

Welcome mornings with breakfast, a walk outside, and quiet reflection.
Plan ahead to avoid the heat of the day whenever possible.
Embrace fresh produce by visiting farmers' markets.
Let summer be a season for slowing down.
Finish my Storyworth book. 
 Watch more movies.
Read more books.
Nap as needed.

 I look forward to reading your summering posts.
Leave your link below.  
 
When I wrote this post on Wednesday night, I left off two important parts of my summer rhythm. I'm taking a trip in August to immerse myself in Seattle's summer and reconnect with friends. 
And just yesterday, I learned about an online book group that is reading (I'll be rereading) Gracing by Hannah Packard Crowther. I look forward to revisiting this book that I love.
 
Back cover of the book:
A lovely invitation: 
"...living in heaven while standing on earth." 

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Tuesday, June 3, 2025

Slice of Life: Haiku for a Grand Morning!

Perfect pirate pose
Purple potion conjurer
Pal of picture books
 
 

(This last pic wasn't taken today. It's from last week when Ollie found the missing library book. But we did read three books twice followed by a third reading of a fourth book this morning.)

Saturday, May 31, 2025

Poetry Friday on Saturday: Poetry Unbound

Poetry Unbound: 50 Poems To Open Your World by Padraig O Tuama finally arrived in the digital format from Libby. I'm in love and all I did was read the Introduction and the first poem. This is not a book that I'm content to read digitally and return to the library. The poems deserve to be highlighted, reread, dogeared, and savored

I'm in Winston-Salem with my daughter celebrating an upcoming significant birthday. We have plans to visit two indie bookstores today, so I'm hoping one of them has Poetry Unbound. For now, I'll share my favorite quote from the Introduction: 

"A poem can be like a flame: helping us find our way, keeping us warm." 

This quote reminds me of a favorite poem, "Fire" by Amy Ludwig Vanderwater that I found in Booklinks and shared in a 2017 NPM blog post. I love the opportunity to gather with poetry friends to "warm our hands with poems" each week, even if I sometimes arrive on Saturday.

Join us at the poetry playground with this week's host, Karen Edmiston

Thanks, Karen, for hosting!

Tuesday, May 27, 2025

Slice of Life: Rewards of a Slow Stroll!

Sometimes a slow stroll lets you discover more, like this creature featured from a recent walk!

 

Tiny little wonder

So cleverly camouflaged 

 Leap to the left, please!  


Tuesday, May 20, 2025

Slice of Life: Learning a New Trick!

You're never too old to learn a new trick. That's why librarians deserve to be your best friends! They know the tricks and they will share them with you.

When I visit my local branch, I always visit the display just inside the front door first. This month was a focus on Asian Pacific Islander Heritage month. I love that our library features adult books, middle grade titles, and even picture books as part of this focus. 

Then I pop over to the new kid books' display table. I love to find books for my grandsons and I still love to read middle grade books. Recently the table was gone! Sometimes they need the table for activities in their meeting room. When that happens, they move this display to the top of a shelf near the periodicals which is definitely not centrally located. Maybe they need someone to donate a table!

I always stop by another display table with a thematic focus. The last time I was in, it was mysteries. Then I head to the new book shelves for grownups which include fiction and non-fiction books (and large print). That's my next-to-last stop before I pop over to library holds and then I check out my books.

I recently attended a Southern book club meeting at our library (not because I need another book club in my life, but) because they were reading a book that I borrowed years ago and the meeting provided the nudge I needed to finally read my brother's copy of A Reading Life by Pat Conroy. 

After the meeting, I enjoyed chatting with the librarian about middle grade book titles and that's when I discovered that our library has a section for Y (youth) shelved near the young adult books. What a great idea! Readers of a certain age aren't stuck in the children's section searching for titles they might love. They have their own section! This discovery added another stop to my library visits. 

I can't leave without sharing three books I found on recent library visits thanks to wonderfully arranged displays in the library. 

The Tenth Mistake of Hank Hooperman comes highly recommended from Melissa, a former teaching colleague, who frequently shares middle grade titles with me (I do the same for her).

My Book and Me is a wonderful tribute to the joy of a favorite book. Check it out from the library, but you'll definitely want to purchase a copy for your own collection..

Ten-Word Tiny Tales of Love by Joseph Coelho and 21 Artist Friends made me wish I could share it with students and discover their stories from the ten-word tiny tales and illustrations. It would be a perfect book to share with students in a creative writing class or with any child who loves to write stories.

Let's give a "Hip, Hip, Hooray" for the libraries and librarians in our lives!